Every thought you think, you have a choice as to the meaning?
When you are at the grocery store and they are out of your favorite item, are you disappointed? Not affected? Do you try something different or do you talk to the manager and request your item be re-stocked?
You see, you create a meaning even when you shop. Each and every thought that you think, you create a meaning. Furthermore it is your choice as to the meaning.
I have a friend who 9 times out of 10 when she travels, her flights get delayed, cancelled and re-routed. Now what would your meaning be if that were you? The biggest difference in my thinking after all these years is that simply put, my cup is half full. I accept everything that comes my way. My meanings are positive. When diversity arises my thinking is that there are no accidents, everything has a purpose and happens for a reason. I may sound cliche but that is how I think. Yes, my glasses are rose colored that is for sure! My mind does not go to, God is punishing me, not even a possibility for me. What is your go to meaning?
My husband is a master at acceptance of what IS and I have gotten much better at it over the years. It has taken diligence of what is going into my brain. Garbage in, garbage out. For the past 20 years I do my best to only listen to positive music, movies and books.
So whether it is a delayed flight, no caramel ice cream at the store, a health issue, an injury both emotional and physical, flat tire, anything, I accept and I find the positive meaning. Things don’t ever happen to me but for me. See the difference? Nothing ever, ever happens to me. But my life is constantly happening for me.
Think about it. If we don’t accept, we are fighting the entire forces of the universe of what is happening in the moment. That is a very large force to fight against : ) One of my favorite books on this subject is Byron Katie’s Loving What Is.
That does not mean you don’t get to change it or fix it in the next moment. Sometimes when I talk about accepting the moment, people tend to think that I am saying not to do anything to change it.
That is the furthest thing from what I am saying.
I wrote about forgiveness last month and I had a comment from someone about the HURT involved. What about the hurt? The hurt is a choice. If someone says something to you, it is your choice as to what it means to you. For example if someone you love and respect a great deal tells you that you need to work on your communication skills, most likely you will accept and even appreciate their opinion. But if that exact same comment is made by a co-worker that you don’t care for, are you offended? Do you dislike that person even more and perhaps now you would also carry a grudge?
You see what I am talking about? The meanings that YOU are creating rule your life. Creating positive and powerful meanings is the key to being happy. I am available to help people through private one on one coaching. I have been studying with Tony Robbins for over a year now and I love the course and his techniques so much. This newsletter topic is one of my Tony aha’s.
The best example I can think of to help you understand the power and choice you have over the meaning of your thoughts, situations and your life is Viktor Frankl’s classic ‘Man’s Search For Meaning,’ Psychiatrist Viktor Frankl’s memoir has riveted generations of readers with its descriptions of life in Nazi death camps and its lessons for spiritual survival. Between 1942 and 1945 Frankl labored in four different camps, including Auschwitz, while his parents, brother, and pregnant wife perished. Based on his own experience and the experiences of those he treated in his practice, Frankl argues that we cannot avoid suffering but we can choose how to cope with it, find meaning in it, and move forward with renewed purpose.